#i hope my characters read like awkward mentally ill ppl to u all

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one of my friends are in ur server. constantly being ignored. they talk a fuckton and u guys just choose to ignore it because you have a friendgroup on there that nobody gets in to. all of the minor characters ( that meaning in the show, ones who probably only signed up for said char because all the other ones were taken ) seem to get thrown away for all the plots started. they take screenshots of that server too.. so i see everything. and you do realize that some ppl probs have mad anxiety (1/2

and are rlly afraid of asking ppl for plots?? so what do you do, then? they were really happy to join an rp group, get stomped on and ignored, and are too socially awkward to actually do anything about it. they get kicked out for inactivity or whatever you guys do with ghost blogs, etc. that's shitty. side note: please don't call me a chucklefuck in your chats. im right. 💕💕💕💕💕

a ps ) mods. mods with status. all of you are fuckin queen bees, i guess. as well as a few ppl who play major chars in 1.a ( ie shoto, kami, baku ).

hmm alright.

-we can not do anything if you don’t speak up about it. if your friend felt ignored and they had come to us about it, we would have been able to do more to make them feel included. the server itself realistically has over 50 people on it. we can not control how other people react to your friend. you may also need to re-evaluate just how much your friend perceives the server because of their anxiety, as most of the regulars are 1) very welcoming to new people/each other and 2) are not aware that they have felt that way and would have done anything they could to change that, should they have known. because, again, a lot of them are very accommodating, but none of them, myself included, can read your minds.

-and i’m going to say it again because you and your friends can’t seem to get this no one can read your mind and you don’t talk about it with us we can’t do anything to help you. i understand you have anxiety. most, if not all of the server, has some sort of mental illness. if that is the reason you can’t speak with us, that’s valid, but it’s not an excuse. you can not try and use your mental illness against us because that is not fair. lots of us also have traumatic backgrounds. i’m someone who suffers from schizophrenia, among other disorders. we understand. we will accept you. but not if bullshit tactics are used against us because that’s not fair to us, and if you’re not going to be fair to us, there’s no way you can accept similar treatment towards yourself. that’s just not realistic.

-speaking of realism, realistically you need to talk to people to get things you want. also realistically, people are not required to give you what you want, if you ask for it or otherwise. i don’t know what you’ve come across but maybe consider the feelings of other people as well.

-there are plenty of minor characters right now that have plenty of plot. here’s a convenient list, because i see you’re keeping up with the server/blog but not enough to actually realize this! understandable! so, off the top of my head, inasa, seiji, sen kaibara, kamakiri, intelli, rei todoroki, bakugou’s parents, etc etc, they all have complex plots because they’re being active in getting them. there are plenty of others (au characters especially included) who are on that same level or getting there. there is also, of course, plenty of accounts that ARE being more neglected, and this is something that i’m about to go on about in an attempt to lessen this but i also can’t stress that if you are feeling neglected it is LARGELY based on the activity of your blog.

-speaking of which! and i’m sorry to tell you this, but activity is a requirement for most organized rp groups. if it’s something your friend isn’t comfortable with, a more lenient group may be more for them. the rule about activity isn’t a punishment, it’s to make things fair for other rper’s who want to put the work in on a character you are otherwise neglecting, for whatever reason! we have a lot of people interested in joining the group who might have more fun with it, and also might be able to deal with the pressures of owning a rp blog better.

-if you are not active on your blogs or in the discord your character will be ignored because people can not read your mind and if you are NOT active they will NOT know that you are available for interaction. this is a fact.

-activity does not mean asks, it does not mean plots, it means post on your blog at least once a week. i can’t stress how important this is BECAUSE:

-a good way to try and get interaction and try to get plots if you have anxiety about it is to make open threads.

an open thread will allow other characters to interact with yours without the need for plotting beforehand. however, please know that no one is required to answer an open thread, especially if they can’t find anything in it that vibes with that particular post. thus, the more open threads, the more opportunity for interaction you have!

we also now have the groupchat discord, which has allowed for VERY easy plotting and should be utilized more for minor characters who are struggling to fit in. the problem with minor characters (which we are aware of) is that they usually don’t have connections with characters that can allow them an easier time integrating into the group. again, multiple of the minor characters have found some good grounding doing just that.

-everyone needs to consider the feelings of other roleplayers as well and try and reach out just as much as they are asking people to reach out to them.

if you can not reach out, please consider the other two options ie. open threads or the group chat.

-the inactivity rule is also pretty lenient, we are not nearly as strict on it as we probably could be. also, if there is a personal issue that is keeping someone from roleplaying, all they need to do is contact one of the mods and they will receive an approved hiatus where they can take the time they need. however if this is not communicated we can not know that there is something wrong and we will assume disinterest and claim the blog back.

anyway since you’re still receiving screenshots, i assume that your friend is still in the server! wonderful! i’m sure you’ve also been privy to a lot of out-of-context screenshots, which is lovely. i hope you’ve also been sent a few on the matter being discussed now within it. i won’t apologize for the members and how they are handling this because i can understand their reactions. while i’m not hurt by these messages, they’ve hurt other people. there are plenty of vastly more mature ways this matter could be dealt with. again, if your problem is with certain people, you could have messaged me or the other people involved... since all you’re doing by contacting this blog is contacting me or most all the people you mentioned in your previous ask, through far more roundabout means. anon messages without context are always going to be taken more harshly, which means it’ll be even harder to find some sort of solution, if you’re actually looking for one.

which, honestly, it doesn’t sound like it.

so, again, i encourage you to message my blog if you’d like to continue this! i’m fine with continuing it here though if you’re more comfortable. just know that you are actually kind of in the wrong here, haha. the problem may not be the group itself and may just be your friend being uncomfortable with the usual rp format that a lot of people are either very well-versed in, or are currently learning alongside each other.

again, i’d like to help if i can, just stop being such a brat about it. if you only care about your friend’s feelings and not the feelings of the people in this group, i can’t fault you on that. i really only ask for maturity on an issue that really doesn’t need to be as extreme as it currently is. thank you!

PS: thank you for pointing out the people you have a problem with! it’s completely unfounded and also unfair considering this is, again, 1) very common for mods of characters with main roles 2) not even accurate because quite honestly i see plenty of the minor characters having just as much if not more plots than a lot of the main characters, just based on activity and the schedule of the mods. and THAT is honestly none of your business, lol, but again, that’s something i’m sure most people would prefer you talk to them about rather than vagueing them in a public setting

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wait im late but throws my url at you too

Opinion on;

Character in general:   honestly the only upside to noctis, for me, is that he is heinously fucking pretty. but! this is because, despite the time it’s been, i still compare him to the old and discarded version of noctis lucis caelum. noctis himself is a shitty, loveable guy with a shitton of issues, a life that is honestly unbearable, and just... i think he’s cute. i support this dude.but i will never stop missing my True Prince of bell-air.

How they play them:   THAT is the thing, because while i can personally appreciate noct as a very real, ordinary person/character outside of fandom - most i see of him is... ppl playing up the ‘i’m a rich prince so we get infinite snacks’ type thing + flustered lack of understanding of the character. it’s rather their feelings toward the character. i don’t... i don’t usually see an actual person in anyone’s noct’ writing.except with u.not only do you write him as smn who is accustomed to being rich and spoiled, rather than smn dropped in that sit w/ a dif bg. you also accurately attribute ( issat the right word?? ) his mental illnesses, dress up his personhood with all this trauma that does, actually, define most of who he is and what he’s like. you’re very aware as you write, and there’s nothing more delicious/ delightful/ rewarding/ satisfying than reading stuff written by smn who shares that they know what they’re talking about. you even do it in a way that is also pleasant and enjoyable???? who is this sudden fucking diamond in the haystack??? thank u for blessing my life w/ actual quality content. you’ve given me hope for my lowkey love of noct’.

The Mun:  so far you seem an absolute fuckin’ delight. we talk a bit ooc, and if i wasn’t as nervous abt scaring u off w/ my awkwardness, it’d probably be more. as with your writing, you seem very aware and decisive, good at making your own calls and minding your boundaries; i support ur lil bum. 

Do I:

RP with them:  yes! fuck yes.

Want to RP with them:  slowly slides u my firstborn child that i don’t have. yeh?

What is my;

Overall Opinion:   sprinkles rose petals everywhere and poses, winks. let’s be friends.

**Note: Mun’s answer are all to be completely honest. Don’t send url if you don’t want brutal honesty

@heavensvaults || accepting.

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for the valentines ask: a l l

twin u lil’ shit…..fine :P

also before we get started, at least a few of the questions’ answers are gonna involve my first ex, which automatically makes them a Very Long Fuckin Story, that i 100% Do Not Have The Spoons For so for any of those i’m just gonna put a short answer and a ***. that in mind, here we go.

1: Do you have a crush at the moment?

yeah, you, u fuckin nerd

2: Have you ever been deeply in love?

Yep! Literally right now!

3: Longest relationship you’ve ever been in?

3 wasted years***

4: Have you ever changed for someone?

yeah*** :/

5: How is your relationship with your ex?

My last ex and i are still pretty good friends (i think) (that anxiety feel when u think all ur friends hate u). The other one…….. ech***

6: Have you ever been cheated on?

…………….moving on***

7: Have you ever cheated?

fuck no, that’s a horrible thing to do to someone

8: Would you date someone who’s well known for cheating?

I suppose that depends on if it’s like, they cheated on someone I was good friends with and heard it from that person directly, or if it’s more like middle school gossip bullshit. First one probably not, second one probably.

9: What’s the most important part of a relationship?

COMMUNICATE!!!!!!!!! YOU FUCKERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

I am entirely too soft hearted to not be Hella Committed to ppl i’m dating

11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on “breaks”?

In principle? Sure. But I feel like a lot of the time people talk about going on “breaks”, they really mean “it’s over but we’re not gonna SAY it’s over because Reasons” which is sorta like having “It’s Complicated” as a facebook status***

12: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

Like 0. See #10

13: What’s one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?

does being in the relationship at all count***

14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

I’m over 18, which means I don’t get an opinion on that

15: Do you believe in the phrase “age is just a number”?

Depends, do you mean in the “you’re never too old to take up a new discipline or interest” way or the “highkey pedophile” way? Actually, phrasing it like that kinda shows you my opinion, so I’m gonna just move on

16: Do you believe in “love at first sight”?

what is this straight people bullshit

17: Do you believe it’s possible to fall in love on the internet?

Maybe not over just text chat (for me at least), but it’s 20-gotdamng-17. We have voice and video and all that shit. It worked for me, at any rate

18: What do you consider a deal breaker?

If the other person is abusive or manipulative and just being around them feels unhealthy, get the fuck out.

19: How do you know it’s time to end a relationship?

See above tbh

20: Are you currently in a relationship?

anyway @twin-ace​ is a fucking nerd

21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

Assuming it didn’t end in too much fire and brimstone, absolutely! Yknow, if the person didn’t do anything Particularly Awful™ that prompted the breakup

22: Do you think people should date their friends?

I feel like being friends is the most important part of a relationship, so if you date someone you’re already friends with, that’s a big chunk of that awkward process out of the way early. That being said, if the person you want to date doesn’t want to date you, don’t be That Person, you feel me?

23: How many relationships have you had?

3

24: Do you think love can last forever?

Thought so***. Color me skeptical but optimistic.

25: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

anyway john lennon was an abusive dickwad. moving on

26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn’t approve of?

like in a “this person seems to be having a negative affect on your mental health” didn’t approve or like a “no son of mine’ll be datin’ no (slur)s” didn’t approve. bc like, i’d consider the first one (not automatic tho) but the second one goes in the bottomless complaint box over a garbage can.

27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

Get the fuck out*** uhhhhh probably read up on signs of emotional abuse

28: Do you think long distance relationships can work?

god i hope so

29: What do you notice first about another person?

their hair 95% of the time. i’m all about that floof

30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?

I’m ace my guy

31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?

tbh if some people describe their mental state as a “cocktail” of mental shit, my brain is more like a Home Depot™ bucket of jungle juice

32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

…………………….anyway***

33: Do you want to get married one day?

I mean, it’d be nice, but like. Mostly I just wanna live w/ bae and like wake up together and make breakfast together and do all sorts of other sappy gay shit, and you don’t need to be married for that.

34: What do you think about getting your partner’s name tattooed?

Not until they invent a Ctrl-Z for tattoos that doesn’t hurt worse than falling into a tree chipper

35: Could you be in a relationship without sex?

I’m ace my guy

36: Are you still a virgin?

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

37: What’s more important: Looks or personality?

throwback to the person i was highkey crushing on last year who turned out to be a trump supporter. needless to say, that ended up 100 Not Happening™

38: Do you enjoy love films?

… anyway i want death

39: Have you ever given anyone/received roses?

Do paper ones count? bc if so, yes.

40: Have you ever had a valentine?

41: What’s your imagination of a “perfect date”?

lets get sushi and fall asleep on the couch for five hours tbh

42: Have you ever read “Romeo & Juliet”?

Yeah, in 9th grade. We actually had a teacher who went out of her way to point out all the dick jokes. It was amazing. Sure tf ain’t a love story tho

43: What’s more important: Your partner or your friends?

If either tried to make me choose between them, I’d probably go with the one not forcing me to make a choice. That being said, the whole squad is chill as fuck, so that’s not a problem

44: Would you consider yourself “romantic”?

i’m such a fucking sap, squirrels in canada pull my ass out of maple trees

45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends?

i mean highkey thats kinda what happened, so

46: Have you ever been “friendzoned”?

I mean, I’ve had unrequited love before, but I wasn’t a 50 ton steaming douchetrain about it, so I’m going with “no”

47: Which “famous couple” is your favorite?

I’m gonna be real honest here, I truly don’t get the Obsession™with relationships of people you straight up Do Not Know like they’re characters in a fuckin shoujo anime

48: What’s your favorite love song?

either Metropolis or Thunderstruck, both by Owl City.

49: Have you ever broken someone’s heart?

I don’t think so? Probably not, anyway

50: If you’re single, why do you think you are?

51: Would you rather date someone who’s rich but a douchebag or someone who’s poor but a nice guy?

assuming you mean a nice guy and not a Nice Guy™I’ll go with the second option

52: Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?

I’m not sure. for one thing, I don’t really give advice so much as just help people talk out what they’re lowkey already thinking. Also, so far I’ve only really had one person ask me long-term (more than a quick question) for relationship advice. over the course of a year and a half, in no particular order, he:

broke up with, and got back together with, the same person more times than I could remember

slept with basically anyone he could during the “off again” periods

punched out the guy she was cheating on him with during the “on again” periods, who was also her drug dealer

hit a (cement or brick, i don’t remember) wall hard enough to put a hole in it

get drunk and make important life decisions while drunk often enough to count as “regularly”

didn’t listen to a single fucking word of my advice during any of this or the year before all of it

needless to say, we aren’t friends anymore

......... let’s just chalk up the original question to a “maybe” and move on

53: Are you jealous of couples when you’re single?

Singles Awareness Day is annoying, pass it on

54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on Facebook)?

5 years ago, it was important enough to me that I made a Facebook specifically for that purpose. By the time that relationship ended, I didn’t even care enough about Facebook even existing to change it. come to think of it, the same status is probably still there.

55: Would you consider yourself “clingy”, “overly attached” or “jealous”?

i’m 100% a clingy binch and so is bae, which is like, the best combination

56: Have you ever “destroyed” a relationship?

like, by existing, or what?*** but nah, never intentionally

57: Do you think it’s silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?

... see on one hand i wanna say something trite like “suicide is never silly” but then i remember this morning i missed a 10 point homework assignment and thought about emailing my teacher “hey when i get to class can u literally murder me please, thanks in advance” for like 15 minutes

58: Are you the “dominant” or the “submissive” part in a relationship?

59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner’s birthday or your anniversary?

I mean, I’ve forgotten other stuff, but nothing like that.

60: What’s your opinion on open relationships?

not my jam, but I get why people do it. I’m fine with people doing it as long as everyone involved knows and approves.

COMMUNICATION!!!!!

61: Who’s more important: Your partner or your family?

family is a pretty broad category tbh. like, i don’t know most of my extended family, and i haven’t talked to my dad in literally a couple years, but I love my mom and grandparents.

62: How do you define “cheating”?

If you know you’re gonna have to either lie or apologize to your partner about it, and then you do it anyway, you can go fuck yourself

63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?

I personally don’t have an issue with it, but I’d talk it out with your partner.

COMMUNICATE!!!!!

64: Do you think Valentine’s Day is overrated?

Happy Capitalism Day™ Everybody

65: Would you consider yourself a “cuddler”?

I’ll cuddle with literally any person i know who is willing to cuddle my cuddly ass. what kinda fuckin question…….